HELP……I AM STRESSED
Let us pray.
Thank you again for what you are doing in our lives, your word which never returns void, your word heals, your word is life, your word is encouraging, your word equips us, your word brings wisdom, instruction, faith and the ability to be great in all that we do. Father sickness, stress, depression and whatever that is not meant to be in the body of Christ has no way to enter and stay in your children, we decree and declare that anything and anyone who is causing this will be cast down and you will rise up in those situations to strengthen us and elevate us.. May we all continue to focus on you alone and in all we do seek you and not your hand, but to get to have that intimate relationship with you not just because of what you bless us with but because of who you are.
In you precious name we pray halleluyah
HELP… I AM STRESSED..
Many times we like to do things and then complain we are stressed or that it was too much to handle. First and foremost it is important to understand that there are DOERS in the kingdom and DOERS of self. A doer in the kingdom prays and puts God first in all they do knowing that in order to succeed in that task they must be equipped to handle what comes with that task, that is to say that when mistakes are made you understand and you keep on going, when people question what you are doing you keep on going (when God instructs you to do something please understand that it shouldn’t be negotiated for when you think the time is right) For Him to instruct you above anyone else is to say that He believes and knows that you can do it and His name will be glorified, He trusts in you to do it and He knows that you will do your best not doubt the process and allow Him to take full control.
When you are selfless and doing the will of God you are a powerful tool in the kingdom. Yes He calls you to do it, but where there is lifting there are attacks and those attacks come in the form of distractions, sickness, negative people you name it. BUT He says in Philippians 4:13 YOU yes YOU can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. So you aren’t alone when you do things He is there every minute, every hour, every second, every day of the week isnt that amazing? He is full time with us even when we doubt, even when we fear stepping out, even when we say no, even when we sin He is our forgiving, loving Father. We are not perfect and His grace is sufficient for us all and His mercy is new every morning. Repent daily – pray for the renewal of the spirit- pray for the renewal of the mind – pray for protection and more wisdom and be on your way. HE GOT YOU AND FAILURE IS NOT YOUR PORTION.
Stress – a state of mental or emotional strain on oneself with demanding circumstances around them they cannot handle. Ladies and gents God did not call you to be stressed, fearful, worried, filled with anxiety and hopelessness. When He created you it says in Jeremiah 1:5 “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I sanctified you, I ordained you a prophet to the nations.”
Do you know how powerful this is? This is to say that God knew you, long before you were born and even conceived, He knew you way before that and had a plan for you. He saw you as His valuable treasure and had a great purpose in mind for you yes YOU. So why let things like negativity, stress and change in circumstances get you down? When God is saying you are way above all that and more. You have to get to a place where you know who you are in Christ, your worth and what you can do and what you need to say NO to. It is not that you are rude or selfish but it is that you know He is taking you somewhere and so your time is precious and not everything and everyone deserves your time. Not all of them can go to where you are going to.
I learnt this the hard way- People knowing and seeing that I was in ministry assumed that my life was perfect and I had no problems and life was just blessing upon blessing. God has blessed me and did back then BUT that is not to say I didn’t have attacks, that is not to say the devil didn’t try to attack my family, that is not to say I didn’t lose things. So the pedestal I was placed on was too high and so I took others problems, and favours they asked me to do on top of what I was facing and overtime was doing all this depriving myself of much needed time in His presence. Time for me and time to do other things which needed to be done all because I couldn’t say no I can’t do it. Which led to my breakdown earlier this year – I felt drained, very weak, sick and sinking close to wanting to stop all together- I had made up my mind that ministry wasn’t for me and I could no longer go on.
But you see that was my fault, when God called me into ministry He didn’t say accept to do all things from others, He didn’t say to act the way I did – sinking close to people pleasing. So I went on the break for a few months because I needed to be rebuilt, strengthened and taught the error of my ways. We are all build to do different things, with different gifts and different people to reach out to. But we cant do it all alone, hence why it says in Ephesians 4:11-13 “And He Himself gave some to be apostles, some prophets, some evangelists, and some pastors and teachers, for the equipping of the saints for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ, till we all come to the unity of the faith and the knowledge of the son of God, to a perfect man, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ.”
This is to say that the kingdom as a whole we ALL have work to do a responsibility to heal, nurture, give, build, fulfil command, and more in the body together as one. Because all the work God commands to be done cannot be done by just one of us but all of us, without division. So when we have this in mind there is nothing like wasting time on the wrong things, wrong people, wrong tasks causing stress and all sorts.
What I do now is I make a to do list of things I need to get done weekly/daily and work through those things to keep me in check and if I know there are things I cannot do, I do not commit to them because my time is precious, I cant do it all, I need time in His presence too. So I am able to discern what I need to dismiss and what I need to take on. That way you I have peace, no stress, on top of everything and more importantly self-discipline and the ear to hear God clearly and for my spiritual eyes to stay open.
Going back to my wilderness break He let me know what it is I shouldn’t have done and what I needed to do more of, let me tell you as much as I love being in ministry, it can get very much at times for the fact that there are people who continually come to just take take take and then come again and again in this vicious cycle. This may seem harsh but you see you have to understand that I am just a vessel God is using, we are all vessels and we are not here for others to put us in the positon of God EVER. So at times I will pray with you encourage you and redirect you back to God and ask that you pray over all we have done for Him to show forth and direct your path. So that is where the no’s started to come in because there were others who just wanted to take advantage, we have to be careful that we do not loose ourselves all in the name of helping others and not being able to say no.
Do you know that is damaging to the soul alone, if for every person who came to you asking for something you said yes yes yes yes and then after was left so drained, empty and weak. Do not take on what you cannot handle and what will cause you to stress. Although I have learnt to say no it is still hard at times but gets better, because I refuse to go back to that dark space in the wilderness where I was so low and weak because of taking on others issues and burdens which should not be the case. God broke me down to the core and rebuilt me in my time of need, weak fed up state and gave me beauty for ashes to make a comeback to learn and change my ways.
The breaking process will be painful but in order to grow and build as a child of the Most High you will need that. I am glad I was afflicted and battered because from that I now see who I am in Christ, I know my daddy and how faithful, loving and powerful He is and so long as we remain obedient to Him He will never forsake us.
SO SOME TIPS I APPLY TO MY LIFE, I WOULD LIKE YOU ALL TO TAKE AWAY AND REFLECT ON:
- BEFORE YOU PLAN TO TAKE ON ANYTHING CONSULT GOD ABOUT IT
- PRAY AND PLAN BEFORE DIVING IN
- MAKE SURE YOU HAVE THE TIME TO COMMIT TO IT/ THEM
- LEARN THAT IT IS OKAY TO SAY NO IF YOU CANT DO SOMETHING
- BE PATIENT THINGS DON’T HAPPEN OVERNIGHT
- ALWAYS ASSESS WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND IF IT WILL BRING TWO THINGS- GROWTH IN THE KINGDOM AND GROWTH IN YOU OR ARE YOU JUST DOING IT FOR THE SAKE OF SAYING YOU DID IT
- MAKE A TO DO LIST DAILY/ WEEKLY THAT WAY YOU ARE DISCIPLINED AND ON TOP OF ALL YOU ARE DOING
- TAKE TIME OUT – RELAX, SPEND TIME IN HIS PRESENCE
- READ THE WORD AND MEDITATE ON IT
GOD BLESS YOU ALL