Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world.
For such men are false apostles, deceitful workmen, disguising themselves as apostles of Christ. And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. So it is no surprise if his servants, also, disguise themselves as servants of righteousness. Their end will correspond to their deeds.
The gift of discernment is a very important, special gift which should not be taken lightly. It allows us recognise the good from the bad, the genuine from the fake, who is for God and who is not for God. I believe we all have this within us and like I usually say it directs us and gives us a sense of feeling what is good and bad about people who cross our paths, not that you are judging but you are using this gift to see who is right to be in your life to avoid you getting too deep with the wrong people.
And it is my prayer that your love may abound more and more, with knowledge and all discernment, so that you may approve what is excellent, and so be pure and blameless for the day of Christ,
A very important aspect of discernment (and not just to do with relationships but friendships too) is to be able to spot whose words and actions match, for consistency in others. It allows you protect and guard yourself from allowing just anyone to get close to you.
But solid food is for the mature, for those who have their powers of discernment trained by constant practice to distinguish good from evil.
Sure we can all relate to the fact that really not everyone who approaches us are of good character some are good and some are bad but you just want to settle for those who are good people and have a positive effect on your life, doesn’t always happen that way. Whereas you want to avoid and not allow close the bad ones who don’t respect people, use them, don’t have a relationship with God or really are just weak and don’t intend to fix their relationship with God, aren’t humble and living wreck less. But then again good people can also change for the bad and so it is always important to be on guard for those around you.
For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.
Not to say people can’t change because if you really want it you can change but some take much longer to want to change, work on it and stick to the positive change than others. If you feel you like someone who has potential but isn’t quite there yet do help them and commit them in prayer, once you have the patience and believe in them then by all means go for it. You see sometimes face value is simply not enough but then at the same time if your heart is saying something and you feel uneasy with someone’s presence at the first instance then that should be more reason to not pursue it further if you feel that way already, keep a healthy distance 1Corinthians 2:14 The natural person does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are folly to him, and he is not able to understand them because they are spiritually discerned.
Everyone is different, it really depends on your strength and patience and the time you are willing to invest in that person or few people, not just for the present but for the future too.. That is one thing I can relate to a lot because I don’t just think of the present time, I think of the long term too and how the person or people will be able to fit into my life, support me and how the relationship and friendships will grow all those factors at times come into play.
For example with guys who approach me I don’t think that with every guy (long term wise) I just guard myself talk to them and keep a healthy distance. But with that deep outlook thinking long term as well as short term I have thought of those things with one person in particular although he was a Christian he was very weak in Christ I was aware of something’s he had done when I first started talking to him and on from that, but in me something was saying this person has potential and so I spoke to him more and over time agreed to try to help and support him to try and change. 1 Kings 3:9 Give your servant therefore an understanding mind to govern your people, that I may discern between good and evil, for who is able to govern this great people?”
Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment.
I must say out of the people I’ve come across over the years this guy was a really big challenge if I’m honest and as time passed learnt a fair amount of things about him some was off putting but other points were okay. Cut long story short we became good friends and saw beyond the present but at times I felt what the person was going through was spiritual and it was something tough I had on my hands but at the same time I didn’t give up on them I prayed, fasted and held onto my faith and courage believing their time will come, up until now it’s been a tough journey but I still believe God can change them and patience is key.
You see with everything spoken of so far one important thing I haven’t mentioned is that you will not only have good and bad people crossing your path but also people God has assigned to you to help them and I definitely feel that with a few people that God is using me to help them. It’s a great feeling to have such responsibility and alongside you helping them you’re also growing and learning more about your capabilities and how to deal with various issues. You are a vessel from God helping others, be the best they can be.
For some time now, this word DISCERNMENT has been deep rooted in my heart and mind. Like a constant reminder of how I should act with others who approach me. I’ve heard other ladies speak about this too and it is important all ladies take this seriously when it comes to the opposite sex, also men too when it comes to the opposite sex no one is excluded from it.
Do not think that the gift of discernment is simply to do with relationships it can also be with friends as well, meeting new people, happens quite often so this gift will help you govern your movements towards new people entering your life.
Matthew 16:3-4 And in the morning, ‘It will be foul weather today, for the sky is red and threatening.’ Hypocrites! You know how to discern the face of the sky, but you cannot discern the signs of the times. A wicked and adulterous generation seeks after a sign, and no sign shall be given to it except the sign of the prophet Jonah. And e left them and departed.
If I have to link this verse in with new people that cross our paths I would simply say that it is very important to not lose focus of what is right and what is wrong if simple things such as the weather can be detected then why should that be different from detecting who is good for you and who is bad?? There should be a balance of being able to discern various things and not just the basic things.. Take on board things to see the bigger picture do not be close minded to what matters as well as what is basic.
1 Corinthians 2:14 But the natural man does not receive the things of the spirit of God, for they are foolishness to Him; nor can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.
LADIES USE THE SPIRIT OF DISCERNMENT FOR A GUY.. LOOK OUT FOR:
Ø GOD FEARING WAYS/ HUNGER TO KNOW GOD
Amongst some of these important traits you will know that truly they are worthy enough to be in your life and worthy to be called a true man of God. Do not confuse such for anything other than the real deal.
LADIES USE THE SPIRIT OF DISCERNMENT FOR A GUY. AVOID:
Ø WEAKNESS/ MOCKING GODS WORD
Ø WRECKLESS LOVING
Ø NO DESIRE FOR POSITIVE GROWTH
Ø DRINKING/ SMOKING/ CLUBBING (ARE THESE ACTIONS WHICH GLORIFY GOD???)
Ø LUSTING AND WEAKNESS FOR WOMEN
Ø WEAKNESS FOR SEX, PORN AND BAD BEHAVIOUR
Ø DOESNT ENGAGE MUCH IN PRAYER
Ø MANIPULATES THE WORD.
ALL THIS APPLIES TO BOTH MEN AND WOMEN..
Now when it comes to guys and the gift of discernment, you also shouldn’t take it lightly. It’s as important for you as it is for us women. In today’s society some women are good and some are bad (take pride in revealing their bodies, sinful ways as well as moving around wrong, some like to say hoeish behaviour) and have a bad reputation based on what most guys feel is what makes them untrustworthy. But with some guys I notice that they are always fast to label women wrongly whether they are bad or even good because of either their own experiences, friend’s experiences or what they see around them.
But these same women who do the above and more are being encouraged to do more of that, because they thrive on attention and guys allow it it’s a continuous cycle of most guys going to such women then complaining ALL women are the same simply because of the ones they either attract or keep going to, to get their easy fix if you like of temporary pleasures.
Surely if you’re always complaining about women doing such why not break away from those women, change your ways and attract the good women amongst the bad. You cannot complain for something you are allowing. If these women feel the need to act in such degrading ways and you don’t like it then don’t give them the time of day focus on the good ones who come your way (who you probably ignore simply because good women tend to be hard work for good reason).
Some men don’t like the chase of a good woman and so time and time again most get sucked in by their weakness for these women and then it starts again that cycle of comfort for easy pleasures.. Now if I was to ask those men who act in this way if they would be happy to bring such women home? Some have answered NO because such women are not worthy to bring home let alone wifey material. So if thats how they feel one will ask why they keep going back to these same women they wouldn’t want to bring home…
A friend of mine made an interesting point that as men they all need that one woman who can believe in them and help them change, however maybe not all men have that support system and so move about until the day comes they decide to change and hopefully that one woman will still be there for them. He also added that men are attracted to boobs, ass, skin colour and what not BUT it is the CHARACTER of the woman that will make him stay and so if the woman doesn’t have a good character worth staying for its simply onto the next one. Quite deep and I have seen the effect such women have on some men and as sad as it is to see, I always ask if it could have been avoided somehow before getting soo deep into such.
So men at the age we are at now, some of you (don’t get me wrong there are still good men out there but this relates to the men who go for the wrong type and are weak in Christ to not see better and beyond such.) will probably be looking to try to focus on one girl and settle and so rather than just move around, should take the time out to study themselves well enough before taking that leap.
Women, sex and porn are amongst some things that lead to a man’s downfall and until he takes back full control he cannot overcome such…
GUYS USE THE SPIRIT OF DISCERNMENT FOR LADIES..LOOK OUT FOR:
ØGod fearing women
ØFaithful (Yes faithful women are still around)
ØWife and mother in the making
GUYS USE THE SPIRIT OF DISCERNMENT FOR LADIES… AVOID:
ØWeak in Christ
ØDegrading themselves (revealing all for all to see)
ØInto things which don’t glorify God
ØCan’t be taken seriously
ØLack of trust
There are still good men and women out there but it’s how you portray yourselves to others, what you go for and who you attract that affects your mindset and what comes your way.
So try to do things differently and see the changes..
I will leave you with this word.
Proverbs 3:1-6:35My son, do not forget my teaching, but let your heart keep my commandments, for length of days and years of life and peace they will add to you. Let not steadfast love and faithfulness forsake you; bind them around your neck; write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor and good success in the sight of God and man. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. …