There is nothing wrong with singleness, it shows you are able to stand alone, do the Most high’s work, also waiting patiently on the one for you. In the Bible it’s not like the known bodies weren’t single, at some stage in our lives we should be able to adapt to and embrace singlehood, but for the right reasons. Look for example at Isaac he was single until his later life 40years+, Jacob 80 years+ and Moses 40 years+ you can’t and shouldn’t always expect that you will always be involved with someone. Learn to enjoy your own company as you work on yourself.
The Most High is pure and only contacts His children via a clean spirit, not an unclean spirit, let alone the earthly suit of flesh. All sexual activities outside of marriage is impure and a sin against the Most High. Yes The Most High created sex but for marriage between a man and a woman. We are to abstain from sex before marriage, because sex before marriage is worldly and contradicts what the Most High expects of us.
1 Corinthians 7:2 ‘Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife and let each woman have her own husband,’ Here Paul states that marriage really is the cure for sexual immorality. Because really sex is made for marriage, sex isn’t made for ‘boyfriends’ and ‘girlfriends’ all manmade titles.
There are people who are soo used to having sex OUTSIDE of marriage, they live within that comfort zone of thinking, one it is okay to do it and two Most High forgives so its fine too, but that alone is mocking Him. Once you know it is wrong learn to stop doing it and pray over it, do not get comfortable in sin. TO FULFIL YOUR PASSION, IT MUST BE DONE THE RIGHT WAY AND THAT IS IN MARRIAGE.
Sex is more spiritual than physical, and so if you wait until marriage will assure you that the person is in it for the long haul and not for a temporary period of time. It will show that they genuinely love you and not for the sex, as people in the world live by as having ‘sex buddies’, and relationships with a foundation built in sexual sin. Sadly people in the world value sex more than Christ.
When you follow The Most High’s techniques He will lead you to prosperity. BUT when you follow the world and let sex define your relationship, especially as a Christian woman and man (weak in Christ) it will lead to a disaster.
Sex before marriage is widely included in the definition of sexual immorality: (Here are some scriptures)..
ACTS 15:20 ‘but that we write to them to abstain from things polluted by idols, from sexual immorality…’
1 CORINTHIANS 5:1 ‘It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality among you, and such sexual immorality as is not even named among the Gentiles- that a man has his father’s wife.’
1 CORINTHIANS 6:13 ‘…Now the body is not for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body..’
1 CORINTHIANS 10:8 ‘Nor let us commit sexual immorality, as some of them did, and in one day twenty-three thousand fell.’
2 CORINTHIANS 12:21 ‘Lest when I come again, my God will humble me among you, and I shall mourn for many who have sinned before and have not repented of uncleanness, fornication and lewdness they have practiced.’
GALATIANS 5:19-21 ‘Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are; adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outburst of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in the past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God..’
COLOSSIANS 3:5 ‘Therefore put to death your members which are on the earth; fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.’
It is evident that the Bible promotes purity by telling us to abstain from sex before marriage, because sex between a HUSBAND and his WIFE is the sex The Most High approves of. HEBREWS 13:4 ‘Marriage is honourable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.’ The Most high created sex not just for marriage but to produce children. Once you continue to have sex outside of marriage you are tarnishing what God made for pleasure in marriage. Which in turn amongst many, creates children but outside of the ideal family structure the Most high intends for all children.
TITUS 1:15 ‘To the pure all things are pure; but to those who are defiled and unbelieving nothing is pure, but even their mind and conscience are defiled.’
Let’s face it temptation is all around us, and lustful behaviour is common, but also a spirit many Christians need to break free from. But all those temporary feelings are not worth the years of pain to follow. What makes you think sleeping with someone will keep them in the long run? What they did with you that way, they can as well get bored of and do with another, the same way. Where was the Most High??, because without HIM things fall apart, you may not see it now but later in life. What you do out there to please guy(s) affects your relationship with the Most High, okay you got him or her and indulge in sin. But as you do that you have lost The Most high’s heart in the process, how can HE partake in what HE tells us to abstain from??
HE couldn’t have made it any clearer in the Bible to not have sexual relations outside of the sanctity of marriage. What you do today will affect your tomorrow and or your children to come, it can become an ancestral thing unless broken from. Repent if you are amongst such who partake in it and pray for strength. That will show you (as a man or woman) if your partner is also willing to make the sacrifice or if they can’t wait. If they can’t wait they really weren’t the one for you. The one for you, will never lead you astray and away from God but closer to Him.
DONT JUST SETTLE WITH ANYONE, BUT WAIT AND HAVE THE QUALITY OF A BOAZ OR ESTHER/RUTH.
PROVERBS 4:14-15 ‘Do not enter the path of the wicked, and do not walk in the way of evil. Avoid it, do not travel on it; turn away from it and pass on.’
Think of sweets or fruits with a sweet taste, you want to eat it because you like it, but then after because of the sweet taste you want to eat it more. With sweets the more you eat it the downfall to that is health issues and gaining weight. As sweet as it all is, there is a downside to it, same way with sexual sin you do it because you like it. But what follows is bitter and painful… Is it worth it, because of those moments?
Temptation of the flesh is deadly and has to be taken up in prayer daily, the spirit will always be willing but the flesh is weak. In the world we are living in, with reckless behaviour and degrading things around. Some will suffer more than others, depending how strong one is in Christ. Those who flee from it and stand strong in Christ shall be rewarded because they show purity, peace, obedience and honour the word walking the path of holiness and righteousness. Your needs at times will lead you to worse of situations as opposed to you staying closer to the Most high to do right. NEVER EVER PUT YOUR NEEDS FOR SIN BEFORE THE MOST HIGH.
PROVERBS 5:3-6 ‘ For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil, but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two- edged sword. Her feet go down to death, her steps lay hold of hell. Lest you ponder her path of life- her ways are unstable, you do not know them.’
Ladies and men too you are different and far better than women and men of the world, you know your worth, dress appropriately and practice the word in your daily living. There are women who to get a man will either entice him with sex or revealing attire to get his attention. Such ties are all temporary and should never be seen as a way to get a man. Christ within us is far more powerful to get our Boaz than to use our bodies to go out to get a man. Honour yourselves and your bodies look after yourselves, respect and love you. Trust HE will send the right man for you, the man for the future and beyond, not the man for the night. WHAT HE GIVES IS FAR MORE WORTHY THAN WHAT YOU GET IN THE WORLD.
HEBREWS 13:1 ‘Continue to love each other with true Christian love.’
As Christians it is important to not get carried away by the appearance and words of a person who shows interest. They can have great looks and say sweet things to the ears. Questions is do they love Christ???
I don’t know about you but I am patiently waiting for my Boaz for a lifetime, not a man for the night or few weeks/ months etc. No time for living in such ways to lose out on what is rightfully for me. SELF DISCIPLINE is important and if you are weak you will always settle and crave the wrong things which are meant to destroy you. Do not make foolish choices and then regret them later that alone is a recipe for disaster and no peace.
I read somewhere a checklist to know if he or she are Mr or Miss Right for you..
- DO THEY LOVE GOD WITH THEIR WHOLE HEART? (BEWARE OF DECEIVERS).
- DO THEY ACTIVELY TRY TO KNOW GOD’S WILL FOR THEIR LIFE?
- DO THEIR ACTIONS ALIGN WITH THEIR WORDS?
- ARE THEY TRUSTWORTHY AND HONEST?
PRAY PRAY PRAY, FOR GUIDANCE AND DO NOT BE MISLEAD OUT OFIMPATIENCE AND DESPERATION TO BE WITH SOMEONE. DONT SAY YES FOR SAYING YES SAKE, THE BEST WONT HAPPEN OVERNIGHT ITS A PROCESS BUT WORTH THE WAIT. DONT WASTE YOUR TIME, EFFORT AND COMMITTMENT ON THE WRONG ONE.
PROVERBS 8:17 ‘I love those who love me, and those who seek me diligently will find me.’
Whatever others do to you to leave a good or bad effect on you, just like you have Christ within so do they too. Just that some do not keep the fires burning within to keep HIM first place in their lives, to get to know Him on a more personal level in Christ. But it is important for us to respond in positive ways to those who have done us wrong. Pray for help because as much as it is hard, it is an act the Most High will expect from us to do. This will also help with healing for past mistakes and wrong people coming close and disappointing you.
JOHN 15:9 ‘I have loved you even as the Father has loved me. Remain in my love.’
One thing many forget is that to be a Christian one must strive to remain in The Most high’s love always. This is where obedience and honour comes into play. Not at times you choose to obey, but all of the time. This won’t be easy for most, but the main thing is to acknowledge this, then be willing to do so. Ask for help, pray, worship, fast do all that you can to get closer to the Most High, He will guide your steps.
Give more of your time to HIM and He will elevate you to greater heights and always be with you, come what may. He knew us and loved us well before we were born. His love is truly amazing and like no other. So thank Him daily and draw nearer to Him and love Him more. He alone will never forsake you.
PART TWO ‘single in a world full of temptation…’
MOST HIGH BLESS YOU ALL..