We can all agree that getting hurt by others is something we would all rather avoid. As much as we try to not think about it or even want it to happen to us, sadly it does happen and people aren’t consistent in their ways. The very people we feel won’t hurt us, are the same ones whose hurt causes that much pain were we begin to lose trust in those around us.
It is hard but with God He will always see us through it all, heal us and keep us on track.
Some will say ‘well he or she did me wrong why should I have to forgive them? It will show my weakness and it means they have won.’ Some turn stubborn and refuse to, but yet call themselves Christians and do things, pray and also want God to forgive them too. Already you can see where the selfishness plays its part. As Christian’s forgiveness is a hard act to follow, (that we can all agree) but more importantly it is expected of us, if you want God to forgive you, you too must learn to forgive others too.
The act of forgiveness isn’t easy and at times our ‘natural’ instinct will allow the pain and upset take over the fact that, forgiveness is an act that will help us heal and be free. Rather we put up this defence mechanism stating what the person has done to us, why it has hurt us, that they too should experience it and should be the ones to say sorry to us, because they are in the wrong, soo many reasons. But that deters us from doing what God expects of us, it is how we want to act and that’s not how to handle it. At first we don’t have the natural feeling of overflow of mercy, grace and understanding but that of blame and pain.
Forgiveness is an act we Christians must partake in when someone offends us. The Bible is our manual to living a good righteous and holy life; in it there are scriptures for forgiveness and why it is important. With OBEDIENCE we should be motivated to forgive and help others too, it shouldn’t be treated as a victim blame game, but something we do to receive healing and be able to move on from.
Once it is an instruction to obey and forgive, then that is what we must do and not disobey our Father. The Bible is to be followed for all things we do in life, not to be ignored.
Forbearing one another and forgiving one another, if any man has a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
A clear example of God asking us to forgive others for the things they do to us, because He is a forgiving Father and we must lead by example. To forgive requires faith and especially obedience as previously mentioned. Very important and also tests our belief in what the Most High can and will do in our lives. When we forgive we are trusting in the Most High to do the work in us that needs to be done for us to move forward and carry out His work here on earth, our temporary home. God not only honours our full commitment to Him but it is a desire of His for us to forgive others, just as He forgives us too. No one is perfect or above anyone else, and so it is important to not take pride in yourself, thinking others do not deserve your forgiveness, this way of thinking is far from right. Seek prayer, if this is you. I believe and stand by this, even though it can be hard at times, eventually it gets done:
‘WE MUST ALL LEARN TO FORGIVE (OUR JOB), BY FAITH, UNTIL THE WORK OF FORGIVENESS (OUR FATHERS JOB) IS DONE WITHIN OUR HEARTS.’ Because as it is written in:
Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ.
SEE WHAT GOD CAN DO WHEN YOU FOLLOW AND OBEY WITH A PURE CLEAN HEART TO FOLLOW HIM AND DO HIS GOOD WORKS.. NEVER GIVE UP, DONT BE DISHEARTENED AND PRAY OVER DEALING WITH FORGIVING OTHERS. DO NOT ALLOW IT TO EAT YOU UP CAUSING YOU TO SUFFER MORE FOR IT.
“When you release the wrongdoer from the wrong, you cut a nasty tumor out of your inner life. You set a prisoner free, but you discover that the real prisoner was yourself.”
THIS IS VERY DEEP AND HIT ME, IN A WAY THAT MADE ME REALISE AND AGREE WITH THE FACT THAT, IN THE PAST I WAS ACTUALLY THE ONE PUNISHING MYSELF WHEN I DIDNT FORGIVE CERTAIN PEOPLE. AT TIMES I WOULD THINK I WAS HURTING THEM LIKE THEY HURT ME, BY NOT FORGIVING THEM. WHEN REALLY IT WAS ME SUFFERING DUE TO STUBBORNESS AND NAIVITY, BUT GOD BEING SO GOOD DELIVERED ME FROM ALL THE BAD FEELINGS AND NEGATIVITY, SURROUNDING MY LIFE IN THE AREA OF FOGIVENESS..
What is lovely about forgiveness is that once you have the will power and strength to do it you gain that freedom as a result of obeying the act. What some, if not most of us fail to realise is that when we choose not to forgive; we are the ones who suffer the most and not the wrong doer. This took me some time to realise but when I did was angry in spirit for my ways and prayed and repented to not allow it rob me of my joy any longer. Forgiveness enables the Lord to set our hearts free, from all anger and any bitterness we held in us for soo long. Leave the person who has wronged you to the Lord, He will take care of it, but remember that is not your job to do so.
JUST REMEMBER THAT FORGIVENESS IS A PROCESS AND DOESNT HAPPEN OVERNIGHT.
By now you’re probably saying to yourself ‘easier said than done’, but that maybe so in your mind but in the Bible it is more than possible to do. God will help you, take it all up in PRAYER and watch the changes and blessings come down, flowing like a river. When you pray you are communicating to God the problem that you are facing and in turn He will renew your mind and spirit to see things in a supernatural way. As opposed to the natural way of holding in anger and hatred for others, such should not be in the body of Christ. At times the wrong doer probably didn’t even realise their wrongs towards you. More importantly, they too are important to the Most high so rather than wish them bad luck and show hate. Simply pray for them and one day God will open their eyes to show them their wrongs, which will cause them to repent for it. God doesn’t hold in forgiveness for others, so who are we to not forgive others?
He will handle them, once we pray we should leave it as that and not dwell on it. Because the more we dwell on it the worse it becomes in our minds. Fighting mind battles forgetting that God has already taken care of it and will help you, do not feel the need to carry all your burdens alone, He will always help you, do not suffer for it. We will at times still feel it, but should not take it upon ourselves to judge others.
Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven
As we learn in scripture not only is it important to forgive, but if we don’t forgive, neither will we be forgiven:
Be not ye therefore like unto them: for your Father knoweth what things ye have need of, before ye ask him. After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine are the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen. For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
‘As we forgive’ >>> FORGIVE OTHERS TO RECEIVE FORGIVENESS FROM GOD.
Do not feel it is okay to hold onto un-forgiveness, because that is like drinking your own poison and storing what’s left to consume another day, knowing that it is damaging but still doing it. Forgiveness will cleanse our lives and like medicine God will heal us and make it better with time. God forgives those who acknowledge the people who’ve hurt them and forgive those people without holding grudges.
God’s forgiveness is based on our forgiveness in our lives. If you don’t forgive people who have offended you, you can’t receive His forgiveness. Our un-forgiveness undermines God’s grace in our lives. Yes forgiveness is one of the hardest actions to do, but it is necessary. One thing I hear and have learnt and experienced in life so far is:
1) You will offend people in this world, regardless of how good you are. No one is perfect, so don’t always think too highly of yourself. Whether it’s your view on things, how you speak out about things or your attitude, you will offend others.
2) Somebody will offend you, get on your nerves, gossip about you, be rude to you and lie to you. This is part of life and happens whether we like it or not, we just need to concentrate on how to handle such and move on. However we should not play the victim role because at one stage in our lives, we too were the perpetrators committing those actions too, whether lying or rudeness.
3) Offenses will weigh us down, heavy loads weigh us down and cause our spirit to be heavy, it shuts us out, withdraws us from others and we become defensive. You can either choose to carry them or release them. Don’t allow it to poison your spirit.
4) Forgiveness releases burdens, God designed forgiveness as a response to offenses, so that we can recover ourselves and renew our minds. Of load burdens in the sea of forgiveness and settlement.
‘FORGIVENESS IS THE MEDICINE FOR A WOUNDED SOUL. REVENGE, VENGEANCE ETC ARE ALL UNHEALTHY FOR THE SOUL..’
Then came Peter to Him, and said, Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?
Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.
This is one scripture that stands out when forgiveness is spoken of, on how to forgive people. This parable Yeshua gave after preaching about forgiveness, shows the importance of forgiveness. It states you are to forgive your fellow brother or sister 7 x 70 times. Now 490 times is a lot of times to forgive someone, let alone keep count of it. But this is simply showing us that there is no limit to how many times one should forgive another, it should be done always. What is best is to go to the wrongdoer and talk about the wrongs and how it made you feel, to see if you can both try to resolve it. If that works then you have gained a brother and it no longer has to be discussed. But if you try and it doesn’t work as expected, and then leave that person alone, it is not by force just take it up in prayer.
Before, 7 times to forgive a person was a lot, it was thought that if someone offended you, you’re to forgive those people three times, and after that there was no more room to forgive. But as Yeshua stated ‘to forgive means to do it as often, as expected to those who have offended you.’
You reap what you sow- If you sow un-forgiveness, you reap un-forgiveness and when you sow forgiveness you reap forgiveness. ALWAYS REMEMBER Forgiveness is good for us, not the one who is to be forgiven. Because if we don’t we suffer and end up in torture, going through a lot of emotional problems by ourselves. When you fail to forgive, it comes with negative baggage, ‘the world’s worst prison is a prison of an unforgiving heart.’