BETRAYAL AND FRIENDS~
One has to be very careful when using the term ‘friends’ one important thing I have learnt over the years is that you cannot trust everyone you call a friend, and the closest of friends can be envious enemies in disguise. I have had my fair share of females backstabbing, using, betraying, speaking negatively of me, competing for material things, two faced behaviour you name it I have most likely experienced it all.
One reason why I do not trust females 100%, not to say all are the same, but to say that when you have seen and experienced a lot, it does effect you. Even until now one ex friend I had ‘beef’ with in my younger years is still a topic that rolls of the tongues of old school friends. That is to show how widespread it got and the drama that was centred on it. Looking back now I have learnt soo much and that is what I keep close to me.
You can be a good person and still have people take advantage of your kindness and generosity. You live and you learn and it is a part of life to go through such experiences, to appreciate the real genuine people you end up with. You can know someone for over ten years and someone for a year or two and you’d be surprised how the person you’ve known for a year is far better and a greater friend than the friend you have known for ten years. Crazy right? But yes it happens and I can testify to this, Most High knows and Im sure a lot of you can too. I believe now I have the right women around me and the ones I do not need left them behind in 2013 a closed chapter along with all the experiences. No going back and that is how we should treat such people, there is no point in holding onto negative, toxic people. They are only good for one thing and that is to bring you down to their low level, seen as they aren’t making it happen for them, want you to suffer with them too. NO that is not our portion and never will be.
MY MOTTO IS THAT IF YOURE NOT FEARFUL OF THE MOST HIGH, POSITIVE AND MAKING MOVES WITH A FOUNDATION BUILT IN CHRIST, I CANNOT BE CLOSE TO YOU.. I SAY THIS BECAUSE I KNOW WHAT I AM CAPABLE OF AND I ALSO KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO HAVE NEGATIVITY AROUND ME AND IT’S NOT NECESSARY OR NEEDED. CUT THEM OFF THEY WILL ONLY TRY TO LIMIT YOUR MOVEMENTS.
PROVERBS 28:10 ‘THOSE WHO LEAD THE UPRIGHT INTO SIN WILL FALL INTO THEIR OWN TRAP, BUT THE HONEST WILL INHERIT GOOD THINGS.’
Friends will do us wrong, but we shouldn’t take it upon ourselves to carry their burdens and their behaviour. Work on forgiving them but don’t allow them have the power to control your thoughts and doing what is right. Keep on going and remember once the wrong people leave, it leaves room for the right people to locate you. LET GO AND LET GOD, LEAD BY EXAMPLE AND HE WILL DIRECT YOUR PATH.
Do not entertain Chinese whispers of he said she said, at times when people are content with their stagnant position they try to poison the minds of those who are doing right. Well leave them you have too much in your life to focus on rather than to entertain people. It may hurt but time is precious and can be spent elsewhere on bigger and better things. But God will never ever betray you, stay close to him and keep those people away from you.
‘PROVERBS 24:19-20 DO NOT FRET BECAUSE OF EVILDOERS, NOR BE ENVIOUS OF THE WICKED; FOR THERE WILL BE NO PROSPECT FPR THE EVIL MAN; THE LAMP OF THE WICKED WILL BE PUT OUT.’
PROVERBS 18:7-8 ‘THE MOUTHS OF FOOLS ARE THEIR RUIN; THEIR LIPS GET THEM INTO TROUBLE. WHAT DAINTY MORSELS RUMORS ARE- BUT THEY SINK DEEP INTO ONES HEART.’
You cannot keep up with everyone because we all know that is impossible its a losing game. People will hurt us and some may not show remorse but it is not up to us, to try to figure out why and take matters into our own hands. This alone can do more damage than good. God doesn’t want us to waste time acting this way, He has a great destiny for us and wants us to put our time to good use, not dealing with small minded people.
JAMES 1:19-20 MY DEAR BROTHERS AND SISTERS, BE QUICK TO LISTEN, SLOW TO SPEAK, AND SLOW TO GET ANGRY. Your anger can never make things right in God’s sight.’
· HELP YOU ACHIEVE
· INSPIRE YOU
· ARE GREAT TO BE AROUND
· CAN ALWAYS LEARN SOMETHING FROM THEM
· NAOMI WITH RUTH/ ELIJAH WITH ELISHA= NEED THAT ENCOURAGEMENT (PROVERBS 13:20)
· TRY TO BREAK YOU AND BRING YOU DOWN
· BAD AND THE UGLY SIDES
· UNPRODUCTIVE TO BE AROUND
· POSSESS MORE BAD QUALITIES
· WOLVES IN SJEEP CLOTHING
· ENEMIES OF PROGRESS
Make a promise to God that you will not let people get to you; neither will you seek revenge or waste time doing wrong things. Focus on Him alone and He will handle it.
PSALM 89:1-2 ‘I WILL SING OF THE TENDER MERCIES OF THE LORD FOREVER! YOUNG AND OLD WILL HEAR OF YOUR FAITHFULNESS, YOUR UNFAILING LOVE WILL LAST FOREVER. YOUR FAITHFULNESS IS AS ENDURING AS THE HEAVENS.’
BETRAYAL IN RELATIONSHIPS~
At times women tend to look on the outside and fall for that, forgetting that the inner being of a man needs to be seen to as well. Lustful behaviour we all know is a sin, and so when pursuing a relationship with someone it is very important to know them well enough and more importantly if their spirit pure? And if they are they God fearing?
Their relationship with God should be the first on the list and if that is not so, it is better to cut ties with them until they know God for themselves. Better still be patient and your BOAZ will locate you, you don’t have to make yourself known by many that you are available because that will only bring trouble and the wrong type.
Good and bad men will approach us, but the spirit of discernment should always be used to discern who is good and who is bad. Do not be content in settling for a ‘fake Christian’ because you are impatient to wait for your king Boaz. When you show impatience you open the back door for the devil to come and cause more trouble. Do not settle because no one who is suitable is approaching you. Heartbreaks and regrets usually occur from such actions and can and should always be avoided.
You are a daughter of the Most High and ought to be treated like a queen, by someone who not only sees that you’re a woman of the Most High. But also a woman of worth and substance with potential to become even better as the times go on, when you know your worth and live right by the Most High He will only give you what you deserve. Whereas the world will give you what you think you need and want in a man. Which really is unclean and will only distance you away from the Most High. Whatever and whoever you gain the world is all temporary and doesn’t last as opposed to what the Most High gives.
Yes he hurt you, let him go and do not keep encouraging his ways thinking that he will change. Men can be very crafty at times once they see that you put up with their wrong ways, they will use that to their advantage and your feelings too. To be assured that you won’t go they will come and go as they please. Already you see a big difference with a man of the world and your potential BOAZ like that of the book of Ruth.
He will keep on hurting you so long as you keep holding onto him and the pain he is causing. Some know no better and don’t realise until it is too late the damage they have caused. It is better to pick up the broken pieces, leave him for good and go to God. He alone can mend the broken pieces, to change what could have destroyed you to something of a special blessing. Wear your invisible crown and put your happiness first because your destiny is attached to no man. They have no right to make you feel worthless and low.
Praise the Most High for taking you out of that stagnant dead end relationship that did not respect or honour you and defiled your spirit within. Do not ever think of going back because there is nothing back there. What is for you that is soo much better and fulfilling is ahead, be patient it is coming. You will realise that once you let go and put yourself first will feel soo much better, genuinely happy, clear mind and freedom to be you again. The toxic energy has all passed and you can now claim back all that has been lost. It will more importantly clear the way for God to bring you your Mr. Right. So don’t settle for less when you can get the best from the palace!!
IT MAY HAVE HURT TO SAY GOODBYE AND CUT OFF ALL TIES FOR GOOD, BUT WE KNOW THAT THIS ONLY MEANS YOU ARE PREPARING US TO SAY A BIG HELLO TO OUR FUTURE. WE ARE NO LONGER BLINDED, BUT NOW WE SEE.
What I find sad about how most men treat women is that they think it’s okay to be having their fun now, forgetting that God sees it all and that one day they too will have children (girls). Who they will have to take care of, girls who will have to deal with what their fathers passed down to them, all in the name of immature fun behaviour.
All that we do now sets out a foundation for our future, if the path is crooked and God is kept out of it, what sort of future can stand such? and produce good fruit, it’s as good as doomed. Until genuine repentance is given, people will realise too late and look back with regret.
So thank God you moved away from that guy, because all the bad things he had done to women before you and all that he had done to you, will be the same things he will have to be comforting his daughters for. You would have been the mother of his children, weeping daily that the life you expected wasn’t quite so, because of bondage from his past of mistreating women.
PROVERBS 26:28 ‘WATCH OUT FOR ANYONE WHO TELLS LIES AND FLATTERS- THEY ARE OUT TO GET YOU’
THANK YOU FOR ALL THAT YOU HAVE DONE FOR US, THANK YOU FOR YOUR UNCONDITION LOVE, KINDNESS, COMFORT, CARE AND UNMERITED BLESSINGS.. I PRAY FOR THE WOMEN WHO MAY BE BATTLING SUCH THINGS, THEY ARE TOO WEAK TO WALK AWAY FROM. MAY THEY GET THE COURAGE TO WALK AWAY FROM WHAT NO LONGER SERVES PURPOSE IN THEIR LIVES.
I PRAY FOR THE DAYS OF SORROW TO END IN THEIR LIVES, I PRAY FOR MORE WISDOM, STRENGTH AND GROWTH TO BE THEIR PORTION. FATHER PLEASE HEAL ALL THE BROKEN HEARTED SO THAT THEY TOO MAY HAVE PEACE AND HAPPINESS TO MOVE FORWARD TO WHAT THEY RIGHTFULLY DESERVE.
IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF THE MOST HIGH I PRAY.
MOST HIGH BLESS YOU ALL