Will be talking about betrayal, and this is an action I know too well, have experienced one too many times to know better, what to avoid and what to not repeat in future. But more importantly to continue to stay away from the betrayers, last experience taught me a lot.
Let’s look at what the term betrayal actually means, so to betray one you reveal a side to you which shows your true identity or your true feelings which was initially hidden. To betray friends, family, partners, work colleagues etc is also the same as someone deceiving you. Betrayal can also extend to disloyal behaviour of breaking promises and or someone’s trust.
Betrayal is filled with disappointments of expectations which led one to believe you had gone against what you said you were going to do, and then more or less going back on your word. To betray someone could also mean breach of confidence, someone confides in you with that level of trust to open up to you, only for you to break that trust.
Betrayal is not a nice thing to have to face especially when you felt assured that the person or people in question were not capable of doing that to you. But then again human beings are not consistent so in as much as you want to believe the latter, you also need to keep in mind that what you feel towards someone’s actions is not necessarily how it is going to stay throughout your relationship with them, whoever they may be.
Have you been betrayed by someone you loved, a partner, family, or friends you felt were like family to you? If you have not been betrayed as of yet, let me tell you it’s not something anyone should have to go through. But it happens and in the end only makes us stronger. Lessons are learnt from experiences and you know who is genuine and who isn’t, and need to cut ties with for good.
Being on the receiving end of a betrayer, literally hits you like a ton of bricks because it wasn’t expected and at first soo many emotions are running wild in your mind. On the flip side, maybe if we had seen it coming we could have distanced ourselves from them; all these things tend to pop up into your mind after. But what is done is done and cannot be erased.
As mentioned the painful and most terrible part of being betrayed is when it is from someone or people you were very close to and loved. Trusted with your inner secrets and things not everyone knew about you. You wouldn’t think such people could do that to you, because to be honest it doesn’t register in your mind until it happens that they actually were capable of doing it.
You will find that some are envious, gossipers and actually mean no good for you and wear a mask of ‘genuine care and love’ to deceive you. Getting closer to you and feeding off what you share with them. Whatever that they do behind your back will always come to light, so even if they do not own up to such actions the truth doesn’t stay hidden for long. Whatever form of betrayal it is, can be very upsetting, painful and disappointing.
From when it happened to me, it changed my way of thinking, put my guard up and stopped me from letting just anyone close (not befriending everyone). When you are faced with such situations it does change you and lessons learnt are not easily forgotten. No one wants such to keep occurring, so you pray and focus even more on the Most High and the spirit of discernment to discern the good from the bad.
WHETHER BETRAYAL HAPPENS TO US ONCE, TWICE, THREE TIMES OR EVEN MORE, IT DOES LEAVE ITS IMPACT ON US IN DIFFEENT WAYS. BUT ONE THING WE CAN ALL AGREE ON IS THAT PRAYER AND THE WORD WILL GET US THROUGH.WHY?
BECAUSE REMEMBER WHAT IS WRITTEN IN THE BIBLE TEACHES US ABOUT THE MISTAKES OUR ANCESTORS MADE AND WHAT TO AVOID DOING, WHICH HOWEVER STILL DOES HAPPEN IN OUR GENERATION HENCE THE IMPORTANCE OF REPENTANCE.
BETRAYAL AND THE SCRIPTURES:
To those of you, who may be facing the pain of being betrayed, remember Yeshua also got betrayed by Judas and so He knows your pain and what you are going through, and will help you through it. He has compassion for you, go to Him and don’t feel that you have to face it alone. As it is written ‘dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.’ Romans12:19.
Leave those who have harmed you in a hurtful way, to the Most High, He knows best. A trap some of us may fall into, is wanting to get back at the person for what they have done to us. So then we find ourselves going into deep thoughts about all that has happened and how it made us feel. In turn thinking of what should happen to them, to make them realize their wrongs. That is never a good move and will just make it all worse. Do not fall into the mindset of seeking revenge to repay evil with evil.. NO NO NO!!. TWO WRONGS DONT MAKE A TIGHT.
SOLUTION FOR SUCH THOUGHTS: We live in the kingdom of the Most High and in the kingdom what is expected to do is not the same as that of the world. In the world revenge is sought, but in the kingdom the Most High wants us all to crucify the fleshly behaviour and to turn the other cheek. As hard as it may be it has to be done in order to grow and heal; Spoken of in:
17 Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men.18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
Whenever anger consumes your thoughts, instead of accepting it reject it and pray for the person who betrayed you. Some might say they cannot do that, it’s too hard and yes that used to be me as well and still is at times. The last thing you want to do is pray for those who have hurt you, but that is what the Most High would expect us to do. Not to seek revenge or act bitter. The Most High will help soften your heart and work on you, to the extent where praying for them becomes a norm, to not eat you up inside but to help heal you.
IMPORTANT TIP: Rather than put all your energy into negativity towards those who have hurt you, why not pray to the Most High to help you pray for them, some of them do not actually realize their wrongs and unintentially do things, the devil may have assigned them to do. Note one thing down, there are people out there, sadly even Christians who are weak to the point where the devil is using them and they don’t even know it. They think they are living right, not knowing that their actions are hurting others around them. The more you pray for them, the more the pain lessens over time and you start to see changes within yourself. It won’t be an overnight change but it will definitely give you peace of mind and genuine happiness. No one has a right to have a hold over you. Let alone your feelings, do not let them control that. Take the focus of anger to forgivingness.
I pray the Most High will grant you the grace to help with all this, as we cannot do this ourselves.
James 4:11 ‘Speak not evil one of another, brethren, He that speaketh evil of his brother, and judgeth his brother, speaketh evil of the law, and judgeth the law: but if thou judge the law, thou art not a doer of the law, but a judge.’
Also be careful who you confide in, one thing I have learnt over the years is that you cannot trust everyone around you, to tell your business to. Close or not as sad as it is with some they just want to stay close to you to feed of what you have and know. It is not always going to be genuine treatment wherever you go, but once you keep the Most High first that is all that matters, not being a people pleaser. You will become a subject of gossip once you let your guard down to the wrong people, more so why the spirit of discernment is soo important!!!!! ‘Leave all your troubles at the foot of the cross, as hard as it will be. Talk less to others about what you are facing and pray more. Because as it is said and believed, the more you discuss the problem, the longer it lingers. Best to let it go. The bible says and quote in Proverbs 15:1 – “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
Romans 12:14, 16 – “Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse…Live in harmony with one another.” It will be hard to reach the point of fully forgiving alone and so you need the Most High to help you. Keep a healthy distance from those who have betrayed you, it is obviously better that way. They abused your trust and eventually will seek repentance. If they see their wrongs and try to make peace, don’t get close to them again, it will take time to try to repair things and won’t happen overnight.
AS PREVIOUSLY MENTIONED A GOOD EXAMPLE IN THE BIBLE TO GO BY IS WHEN YESHUA WAS BETRAYED BY JUDAS:
THE PASSOVER MEAL~ Matthew 26:2-26
‘2 Ye know that after two days is the feast of the passover, and the Son of man is betrayed to be crucified.
3 Then assembled together the chief priests, and the scribes, and the elders of the people, unto the palace of the high priest, who was called Caiaphas,
4 And consulted that they might take Jesus by subtilty, and kill him.
5 But they said, Not on the feast day, lest there be an uproar among the people.
6 Now when Jesus was in Bethany, in the house of Simon the leper,
7 There came unto him a woman having an alabaster box of very precious ointment, and poured it on his head, as he sat at meat.
8 But when his disciples saw it, they had indignation, saying, To what purpose is this waste?
9 For this ointment might have been sold for much, and given to the poor.
10 When Jesus understood it, he said unto them, Why trouble ye the woman? for she hath wrought a good work upon me.
11 For ye have the poor always with you; but me ye have not always.
12 For in that she hath poured this ointment on my body, she did it for my burial.
13 Verily I say unto you, Wheresoever this gospel shall be preached in the whole world, there shall also this, that this woman hath done, be told for a memorial of her.
14 Then one of the twelve, called Judas Iscariot, went unto the chief priests,
15 And said unto them, What will ye give me, and I will deliver him unto you? And they covenanted with him for thirty pieces of silver.
16 And from that time he sought opportunity to betray him.
17 Now the first day of the feast of unleavened bread the disciples came to Jesus, saying unto him, Where wilt thou that we prepare for thee to eat the passover?
18 And he said, Go into the city to such a man, and say unto him, The Master saith, My time is at hand; I will keep the passover at thy house with my disciples.
19 And the disciples did as Jesus had appointed them; and they made ready the passover.
20 Now when the even was come, he sat down with the twelve.
21 And as they did eat, he said, Verily I say unto you, that one of you shall betray me.
22 And they were exceeding sorrowful, and began every one of them to say unto him, Lord, is it I?
23 And he answered and said, He that dippeth his hand with me in the dish, the same shall betray me.
24 The Son of man goeth as it is written of him: but woe unto that man by whom the Son of man is betrayed! it had been good for that man if he had not been born.
25 Then Judas, which betrayed him, answered and said, Master, is it I? He said unto him, Thou hast said.
26 And as they were eating, Jesus took bread, and blessed it, and brake it, and gave it to the disciples, and said, Take, eat; this is my body.’
THE BETRAYAL AND ARREST~ MATTHEW 26: 47-61
47 And while he yet spake, lo, Judas, one of the twelve, came, and with him a great multitude with swords and staves, from the chief priests and elders of the people.
48 Now he that betrayed him gave them a sign, saying, Whomsoever I shall kiss, that same is he: hold him fast.
49 And forthwith he came to Jesus, and said, Hail, master; and kissed him.
50 And Jesus said unto him, Friend, wherefore art thou come? Then came they, and laid hands on Jesus, and took him.
51 And, behold, one of them which were with Jesus stretched out his hand, and drew his sword, and struck a servant of the high priest’s, and smote off his ear.
52 Then said Jesus unto him, Put up again thy sword into his place: for all they that take the sword shall perish with the sword.
53 Thinkest thou that I cannot now pray to my Father, and he shall presently give me more than twelve legions of angels?
54 But how then shall the scriptures be fulfilled, that thus it must be?
55 In that same hour said Jesus to the multitudes, Are ye come out as against a thief with swords and staves for to take me? I sat daily with you teaching in the temple, and ye laid no hold on me.
56 But all this was done, that the scriptures of the prophets might be fulfilled. Then all the disciples forsook him, and fled.
57 And they that had laid hold on Jesus led him away to Caiaphas the high priest, where the scribes and the elders were assembled.
58 But Peter followed him afar off unto the high priest’s palace, and went in, and sat with the servants, to see the end.
59 Now the chief priests, and elders, and all the council, sought false witness against Jesus, to put him to death;
60 But found none: yea, though many false witnesses came, yet found they none. At the last came two false witnesses,
61 And said, This fellow said, I am able to destroy the temple of God, and to build it in three days.
ALWAYS REMEMBER THERE ARE BETTER DAYS AHEAD.. LET GO OF WHAT CAUSES YOU PAIN AND WORK ON HEALING..